The Taylor Swift song Look What You Made Me Do reminds me of a Return to Sender Spell. This is an ideal “spell” to do when somebody has been sending you a lot of negativity. What kind of negativity? It can be malicious gossip, it can be abuse (any kind of abuse – physical, emotional, verbal), it can be any action done on behalf of another directed towards you to control or demean or harm. And “harm” can take a lot of forms.
For me, personally, I don’t do this if it’s a one off, so to speak. People make mistakes, people have errors of judgement, people have bad days. This is for repeated conduct. Repeated disrespect, repeated abuse, repeated maliciousness. Even for things like not listening to you or respecting your boundaries. Not respecting your wishes. All of that is a form of negativity.
For those of you who worry about if it’s “black” or “white” or “gray,” I don’t know if it’s really any of those things. It’s simply returning the negativity somebody has sent towards you or given to you, back at them. You’re not wishing them any more harm. Anything more hurtful. Just what they’ve done to you, what the’ve put you through….sent back to them.
There are a lot of variations on this spell. Some use a black candle inscribed with the name of the person (or people) you are sending the energy back to. Some involve a small mirror (as a tool of reflection). Some can incorporate a hoodoo name paper if you identify with that practice. You can add hot foot powder to make the person (or people) leave, or just salt as a form of protection from their negativity.
I’m not going to write exactly what I do when I do one of these – I think to some degree, finding your own version or variation is part of what makes it your own. I simply offer it up as an option if you are dealing with negativity or negative people. And again, for me personally, it’s not a single mistake (unless it’s particularly heinous), it’s repeated conduct. And you can almost always tell when somebody has made an honest mistake and when they meant their words or action to harm. Especially if they are repeated or have been on going for months…or years.
It’s simple and very effective and it gets the job done. Whether or not the person will realize what’s been done or that their negativity has simply been turned back on them – who is to say? But it’s good defensive and protective magic for yourself. Just like removing yourself from an abusive situation or a truly toxic situation – it has to start with you. Don’t be afraid to do what you have to do to protect yourself from toxic people and toxic energy…
Be open to what calls you…