We all have parts of ourselves, aspects of our personality, that we don’t love. That we know need to be worked on, changed or just outright gotten rid of. Do you judge people too much or too often? Do you complain all the time? Are you overly-critical? Do you give up when things get difficult or challenging instead of seeing things through? Do you talk yourself out of things because you still hold on to outdated ideas of who you are and what you’re capable of? Do you give too much attention to what others think…or might think? Do you allow yourself to stay in situations you don’t like or that don’t make you happy because the idea of change terrifies you?
Sometimes, it’s seeing these traits in other people that makes us realize how unattractive they are. I am never as aware how draining and unattractive complaining is until I talk to my mom. I love her, but she has gotten used to complaining about everything. All the time. Nothing is ever good or fine or perfect. She’s not going to change and I don’t try to change her. She has to realize this is a quality of herself she doesn’t really like and change it herself. But I am suddenly made more aware of how I don’t want to be like that. And when I catch myself falling into that rut, I snap out of it. I start thinking of things in my life that I love, that I am happy for and about, things I’m grateful for.
This isn’t a “one and done” sort of activity. I have to remind myself repeatedly to do this. But it’s worth working on. Constant complaining really is unattractive and it doesn’t change anything. We all have something we do or something we don’t do (that we wish we did)….you can change it at any time.
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