Something to look forward to. Somebody to look up too. Something to chase.
Those are The Big Three. These are things we should always be asking ourselves in our lives. And they are things we should always strive to have, or be striving to attain. Without any sort of forward focus, our lives can become boring (to say the least). But more than that, there won’t be any growth. Anything to strive for. And it’s always the struggle that brings the growth.
The other thing to consider when asking yourself what these things are for yourself is to keep the focus on yourself. That might sound obvious, but we tend to shift the focus of our own growth and evolution to those around us. Our kids, let’s say. Or our friends or the people in our lives. I’ve asked people to name these things for me and almost always, one of them will involve their kids. They’re looking forward to their birthday. Or their graduation. Or their awards ceremony. Or something that their spouse or significant other is going through. Their promotion. Their raise. And while we should find happiness in the success and happiness of those around us and those we love, we shouldn’t lose focus on ourselves.
We need our own individual goals and aspirations independent of those around us. We need our own goals for our own growth. Our soul’s evolution.
And these Big Three should be changing, too. Because the idea isn’t to put something on the list that’s so far out in the future, but rather something attainable relatively soon. Within the year, let’s say. If you’re 35, you shouldn’t have the thing you look forward to being retirement. Unless you plan on retiring at 36. And you can have several things in each category, too. There can be several things you look forward to. Lots of things you look forward to and lots of goals you are chasing. I always have several people I look up to at any given time. Different people for different things.
They say the happiest people are the ones who always have something they’re working on and working towards. People with goals and aspirations for themselves. Just because we get married or have kids, the focus shouldn’t shift completely away from our own individual happiness and growth. How can we possibly be a source of happiness for others if we aren’t happy and fulfilled on our own? How do we encourage our children to have goals and aspirations if we don’t have any for ourselves? You can’t pour from an empty cup.
Be open to what calls you…
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