As if the recent eclipse season and Mercury retrograde wasn’t enough, Venus will go retrograde from October 5 – November 16. This is about relationships and what we value. In a VERY significant way.
Simply put, any retrograde is a time to “re.” To go over. Re-do, re-evaluate, re-assess. Re-think. And with Venus retrograding in Libra (her home base) and then in Scorpio…some intensity may be involved.
Any relationship that started or was formed during the eclipse season (June through the middle of July), during a Mercury retrograde or a Venus retrograde is likely to experience a lot of turbulence. The energy isn’t stable….the relationship won’t be stable either.
Love bombing is a toxic relationship dynamic that is characterized (in part) by moving WAY too fast, lots of gifts, talks of “forever” and how you’re both “soul mates.” Constant contact, however that resonates with you. Texts, emails, phone calls, visits. Every day or every weekend (ALL WEEKEND) together. And it’s done by a person who is in a rush to get their target under their control before the target leaves. The bomber will try to get the target in a situation they can’t leave (without significant upheaval). They will convince you to give up your living space to live with them, or to quit your job and move, to not see your friends or family as often (they’ll tell you they really miss you and are you sure you have to see them again?).
And once they have you in a position that takes away your control or autonomy, they will flip on you.
Enter the anger and rage. The emotional manipulation. The control. And this is what can (and often does) start the familiar “cycle of violence.” From seemingly out of nowhere.
Often, but not all the time, the bomber is a narcissist. Or somebody with those traits. Likewise, the bomber had attachment issues while growing up. Left unresolved, they carry over to their adult relationships. And at the very core and center of all of this is a strong undercurrent of extreme insecurity. Bombers need approval and validation. Now and all the time. If you don’t respond to their constant contact, to their constant social media posts, to their gifts and ideas with praise and admiration…get ready.
Because it’s about control. If nothing else, they’re controlling what your focus is on. So even while with friends or family…you’re still somehow focused on them. See how insidious it is?
Venus retrograde can make anyone or anything seem…magnificent. It’s when she goes direct then the rose colored glasses come off, the lights come on and we realize exactly what we’re dealing with. And it’s a train wreck of a mess.
So be careful out there. If something or someone feels “too much” or too good to be true…it is. And pay attention to what this person is really offering you. This can go for monetary issues as well. Because Venus in Taurus (her other home base) is about luxury and value and money. Is it a great deal NOW…or is what this person is offering a true long term value? What comes with this deal? And ask why you think it’s a good idea.
In some ways, a Venus retrograde can be more hard hitting than a Mercury retrograde. Especially if relationship is of high value to you. Watch that. Too much, too soon without a lot of real long term benefit….add in a heady dose of control and the need for constant validation and attention…take the glasses off now and see it for what it is. Then bless the experience for what it taught you, wish that other person well and leave as fast as you can. And don’t look back.
Be open to what calls you….
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